Yes, I found the ONE, or so I thought. As an avid reader and movie enthusiast, I knew all the signs to look out for and could boldly say I had one of the best. The things that weren’t right were minor; of course, we all have flaws. Self-awareness and intentionality in working on those flaws were attractive.
I fell hard and didn’t hold back; why would I? he was a gentle, spirit-filled, tongue-speaking lover of God. I had done the math, and everything was definitely adding up; I trusted my instinct and followed my heart. I was living in a dream world; I would go to weddings and daydream of just how ours would be, watch lovey-dovey videos on the internet, and say, “yes, we got this”. I often wondered how I got so lucky.
Last year, I wrote a letter to my future husband with him in mind, even though I did not turn it in. I loved the love; I was in a happy place, I could list all that was beautiful about this man and this relationship, but I would stretch this a bit longer than intended.
I was tuned to a different frequency, engrossed in my usual calculations about the pros and cons of doing forever with this man, and I was mentally ready for the shift.
But, how did the conversations become about us being just friends? How was it so easy to let go of two and a half years into another’s arms?
P.S. – Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING; in all your ways, submit to him, and he will direct your path.
From this experience, ABBA’s DWELLING thinks that it is necessary to note that:
- Before the start of any relationship, there is a vital need to hear from God. Man must not judge from physical and emotional signs alone. No matter how much a man plans, if he does not involve God, the end is not always pleasant. We must learn to trust in the LORD with all our hearts and not lean on our own understanding (Proverbs 3:5). Proverbs 19:21 says “There are many plans in a man’s heart, Nevertheless the Lord’s counsel that will stand.”
- Even after hearing God the first time, there is a necessity to keep Him involved every step of the way. God’s initial approval does not give us the go-ahead to make our own plans. HE must continue to be the sailor of the ship. Jeremiah 29:11. For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
- It is also necessary to receive godly counsel from those who are your spiritual mentors. They would serve as a guide to show you the right path to take especially when problems arise. Proverbs 11:14. Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety
- It is necessary we remind you of the gravity of marriage. Even though there could be a lot of ‘mushiness’ along the way, marriage is not a fantasy. The decision on who to get married to must be one that we must take with seriousness. Hebrews 13:4 “Let marriage be held in honour among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
Dear Reader, if you are suffering from hurt from a broken relationship, we need you to understand that God is willing to heal your heart. He is indeed close to the brokenhearted. If you need someone to reach out to, do not hesitate to send us a mail at abbasdwellingplace@gmail.com or if you’d prefer a more anonymous conversation, you can use the Talkbot on our website. It is our prayer that none of you reading this would miss it in the decision on who to get married to in Jesus’ name.
Remember, ABBA cares!